I’M in my early 40s and am married with one child. I have been suffering from depression since my early 20s and have been on medication for more than 10 years.
Most of the time, I struggle to work and find life boring and meaningless. I try to fill my life with activities I like but things don’t seem to improve.
For many years, I have been harbouring thoughts of having a relationship with someone much younger. I seem to be attracted to young and pretty girls and yearn to have a relationship. I would say this is the only thing that can make me feel “happy” for a while. My sexual urge could be very high if not for the antidepressants which help to control it.
I still have a sexual relationship with my wife but I don’t seem to enjoy it so much. I do it just to “release” myself. Probably we have been married for too long. Please don’t tell me to try and do it in different places, etc, to make it more exciting. It just won’t work because I just yearn for a new partner.
I know the consequences should my wife find out. I really have no choice because this longing for a romantic relationship is getting stronger.
I read a lot and I think I know why I feel this way. First, it is due to my upbringing which was lacking in parental love. Second, because I am depressed, I don’t seem to enjoy other things except romantic love and sexual fulfilment.
You may say that I shouldn’t be interested in sex if I’m really depressed. And probably, after a year or two with a new partner, this same longing for someone new may arise, I suppose.
I’m just drifting along and feel quite trapped for not having the liberty to do what I want. I do have many women in mind but I don’t want to hurt my wife and cause my family to break up. I still want to keep my family, especially my child. I know how important a father’s love is for a child. Please help me solve my predicament.